Clarity & Conviction

• To speak for impact, you need to know the end result your working towards. Be clear of your listener to feel and how to behave after listening to you.
• Visualize how you and your audience are feeling once you have delivered your message, this is a powerful technique to help you get started with your message. This will work whether it will be with an audience of people, your spouse at the end of the table or your children.
• Your conviction is powerful - your passion for what you are talking about will enhance your message.
• It is very important to understand your audience before you speak, how they are feeling, what they are going through, what they are after and then talk. You have to go to where they are and then take them to where you want them to be.
• Every word spoken from your mouth should be uplifting and encouraging. 
• Sharing your own stories (related to theme) draw your audience near to you. You can inspire and stir the soul of you audience by sharing your journey - where some of your listeners may be and where you have already been before.

Safe Space

• A safe space is where your listeners and you feel safe and comfortable to share.
• Creating a safe space requires some boundaries to be set prior to conversation - that as we share there will be no judgement, there will be no condemnation and that whatever we share will be confidential.
• There needs to be an agreement that we will end this conversation in a win/win. That we are doing this because we care for each other.
• Safe space requires both parties to be honest and transparent to each other.
• A safe space needs to be a dialogue. Both parties need to get a chance to hear each other out.

Connect with Audience - Me, We, You

• This technique will let your audience know that you are not standing on to of a mountain top and talking down to your audience but that you have understand them and know where they are at.
• This technique creates a common sense of togetherness with listeners and speaker.
• First is ME - here you talk about yourself and the challenges ( subject of your speech) you faced and most likely your audience has/or are facing as well. Here you be transparent and share.
• Next is WE , here you everyone together  by saying that WE all go through this or understand this or experience something. This will tell the room that yes, its just not them but everyone present who encounter that issue or challenge.
• Then you go with the direct approach of YOU - where it will appear that you are talking to each person directly in the room and that you as the speaker can help them, inspire them or motivate them to move past their current challenge. This is where you show yourself as someone who is an expert or is knowledgeable in your subject.
• Example: 
  "There was a time in my life when I often doubted myself, I used to ask myself if I was good enough, capable enough, smart enough to have my own business after all the failures in my life.
  We as humans have a tendency to have our desires and goals and almost instantly question ourselves, are we able to make it happen?
  Has there ever been a time in your life when you wanted to do something but you doubted yourself, you listened to your own negative chatter and you didn't take that opportunity or step out of your comfort zone?
  
  

Storytelling - Don't tell a story, show a story

• Telling stories as part of your speech is such a powerful way of connecting with your audience and getting an idea across.
• A story can be used in any setting to enhance your message, whether you are talking to your spouse, your children, to your team at work, presenting the monthly budget to a group or standing on stage and sharing.
• A story is just an incident in your life. It could be something as like how you celebrated your birthday, how you went through something in life, or something that happened on your way to KFC , how you fell , how you bought your first car or the day you learnt a lesson in life. It is an incident that happened in your life.
• In speaking , you use a story to connect an idea. Generally there is 1 idea with one story.
• How you show a story is by describing in that moment what you felt, what you saw, what you heard, what you felt, what you smelt and how you reacted. Appeal to senses when telling a story - your eyes, ears, skin, smell and taste.
• Example:
  

" As I sat on the blue chair next to the window waiting for my name to be called out, I was a 100 thoughts a minute - was I good enough, am I capable, will I be able to speak well, will I be able to understand them?
As the thoughts came in I could feel my heart raising and my feet starting to move by itself , I was almost shaking as I anticipated by name to be called out next, I felt extremally nervous. I could almost sense a patch of sweat under my smartly ironed pink shirt "

Describing what I felt, what was happening and how my body was reacting, I was able to make you picture exactly what was going on .